Some things I’ve learned.
I can hardly believe that so much time has already passed since I went to college. I mean, it’s almost four years now. And while that number is not a particularly large number, I still find myself sitting here stunned. It feels like just yesterday I sat in my college dorm in my flannel shirt listening to Modest Mouse. I’m asking myself a question that many ask themselves when pondering time; what happened?
I am blessed. I know this, I’ve said it, so you all know this; yet it is still something I always bring up to remind myself of. And as I sit at my desk, blessed and typing away, I’ve realized that I’ve learned a lot since graduating school. I think it’s safe to say that at this point, I’ve learned more in my almost four years out of school than I did during my two years of higher education.
I’ve learned that everyday is a gift. I’ve learned that most know this. I’ve learned that we all forget it anyways.
I’ve learned that there is nothing more heartbreaking that watching a husband stand over his wife of over 60 years and give her one final kiss.
I’ve learned that there may be one thing more heartbreaking than that, and that is watching a mother mourn her baby.
I’ve learned that sometimes, when people are hurting, you don’t need to tell them beautiful words. I’ve learned that a hug or a touch will just do fine.
I’ve learned that people don’t always expect you to fix something if it’s broken. I’ve learned that sometimes they just want company while they’re with their grief. I’ve learned sometimes they want to be alone. I’ve learned that both of these are okay.
I’ve learned that crying does more than just make your mascara run. I’ve learned that it also lightens your soul.
I’ve learned that when you feel like you’ve been carrying the weight of the world, you should go and get a massage.
I’ve learned that you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.
I’ve learned that a new giggling baby is the perfect thing to bring smiles to the faces of others.
I’ve learned to ask for something if I need it.
I’ve learned to be patient. I’ve learned to listen. I’ve learned how to be better at helping others. I’ve learned that not everyone wants to be helped. I’ve learned how to let things go. And I’ve learned how to hold on to other things.
Life lessons are better than school lessons. I am grateful for every opportunity that school gave to me, but I am more grateful for having the health and ability to learn other lessons through everyday events. And if these are just some of the things that I’ve learned these last four years, I can hardly wait for the next four, or forty. Life is a funny thing. I’ve learned to laugh with it.